Wednesday, 30 July 2008

Rimming

Rimming. You either love it, or you hate it. And lots of us love it. It's very much a mainstream fetish, even among straight couples and lesbians.

If you haven't already guessed, I'm one of those people who love it, and I'm not alone. According to an OutPersonals poll, over 90% of gay and bisexual men regularly enjoy rimming or being rimmed. Nearly all of those questioned enjoyed being rimmed, and around 25% of them enjoyed doing the rimming. I definitely fall into that 25%.

Rimming involves the stimulation of the sensitive perianal area and the anal sphincter with the mouth and tongue. The reason it's so pleasurable is because the nerve endings in this area are denser than most places on the body. Some people can find even the lightest touch in this area arousing, so when you combine that stimulation with the natural lubrication of saliva, the textured surface and warmth from the tongue, the sensations caused by breathing onto the skin and vibrations caused by voice and sound among many others -- you have a winning combination for most people. For the rimmer, the exploration of this sensitive area with the mouth can also be highly pleasurable. Rimming can also be very psychologically arousing, and many people consider it to be one of the most intimate of sexual acts.

Given that it's such a popular pastime, I wonder why so many people think that licking the anus is all there is to rimming. To me, that's like saying putting a dick in your mouth is all there is to oral sex.

Before you even consider rimming, or being rimmed, you should think about hygiene. To some people that means evacuating and taking a shower making sure to wash your ass well, to others it means douching and shaving. Whatever floats your boat, really. But cleanliness is next to godliness. Remember safer sex practice, and use a dam where necessary. If you don't have one to hand, you can make an improvised dam by cutting a condom down one side and opening it up into a square to form a barrier between the mouth and anus. If you do this, be careful that the condom doesn't tear. Some guys find that this puts them more at ease on the issue of anal hygiene, too. Another point to be mindful of is that many guys don't like to kiss or be kissed after rimming.

I like to tease a little before I start eating ass. Playfully biting my partners butt cheek, kissing his thighs, his back. Running my tongue from the small of his back to his shoulder blades, then down to his ass drives him wild.

Experiment a little, see what your partner prefers. Some people like to dive straight in, which is fine too, but exercise caution if you're with someone who's nervous or inexperienced. If you're on the receiving end, don't be afraid to tell your partner to slow down.

When it comes to varying the sensations achieved through rimming, position is the key. Some guys prefer lying on their backs with their legs raised while getting rimmed. This position allows for easy access to both his ass and his cock. It's also ideal for oral stimulation of his perineum, the "miracle inch" between the base of his ball sack and his anus. Beware, because it's the most exposed, some men can find this position unpleasant, especially the ticklish!

Another position that grants great access is having your partner squat over your face. Be sure that he's at the right height, or you can strain your neck or have difficulty breathing. This position allows him to reach your cock easily while you eat him out, but the temptation with a lot of men is to try to suck your cock while you rim him, causing his ass to tilt upwards meaning that you have to strain to gain access. The easiest way to do this is to have a pillow supporting your head, and raise your legs slightly to bring your cock closer to him. It's also possible to '69' rim in this position.

Having your partner on all fours is an easy position to hold for any length of time. This still allows you to be able to play with his cock and stimulate his perineum, and it gives him slightly more control over how much stimulation he gets. Spreading his butt cheeks and tautening his sphincter while you lick and probe it in this position has the potential to drive a man wild.

My favourite position to get stuck into my guys ass is to have him lie on his stomach with his legs spread out. Many people prefer this position just because you can't see the guy who's rimming you very easily, and they quickly loose their inhibitions. You'd be amazed at how quickly even the most apprehensive of guys start bucking back against you and moaning in ecstasy as you eat their ass this way. Another benefit of this position is that it allows the recipient to hump, whether it be the mattress, their fist, or a fleshlight. Double the pleasure. I especially like rimming my partner to climax this way, we can both hump our fists while I'm rimming him. I'm usually so turned on that I spend most of the time trying not to cum, and when I feel his ass spasm as he's about to unload I can let go, bury my face into his butt and we achieve a perfectly synchronised orgasm. Everyone will have their own favourite position, experiment with different ones, see which you both prefer, and mix it up occasionally.

When it comes to technique, experiment a little with different tongue strokes and finger stimulation while rimming. Not every man enjoys being fingered, but light pressure is usually OK. Try using different pressures, from the lightest flick of the tongue to pushing your tongue into his sphincter, lightly penetrating him. As a general rule the deeper you go, the more pleasurable it is, but gauge his reactions and see what he prefers. Everyone's different, after all.

Experiment with different sensations. The perianal skin is one of the most sensitive spots on the human body, and there are many different ways to stimulate it. Many find the sensations of heat and cold pleasurable while getting rimmed, and there are many ways to achieve this type of stimulation. From gently blowing on wet skin to cool and using your breath to create sensations of warmth to holding ice cubes in your mouth, and sipping a hot drink before you get stuck in can be very pleasurable for the recipient. Eating a breath mint before rimming your partner can make the sensitive skin around the anus tingle, which can be pleasurable. Be careful to avoid his cock though, this can actually sting. Vibration is another often pleasurable source of stimulation, this is often known as "humming". That is, humming out loud while you press your mouth against his anus. If you feel a little embarrassed about trying this one out, try moaning out loud instead.

Using sound is a great way of exciting your partner while you're rimming him, just like we enjoy hearing a guy slurp and moan in pleasure while giving oral sex -- guys like to know that you're getting off on pleasuring them just as much as they are. Some people enjoy being verbal and talking dirty, others don't.

Some people enjoy incorporating flavours and textures into rimming -- whether it be honey, flavoured dicklick or any other foodstuff that can be conveniently spread onto and subsequently licked off of your partners ass.

Don't forget to use your hands. Grip his butt cheeks firmly, squeeze them, massage them, pull them apart. Grab his back and squeeze, stroke his thighs, play with his dick.

Let yourself go, and enjoy one of the most intimate and intense sexual acts you can experience. Incorporate it into foreplay, or make it the main sexual act itself. It makes for a good lead-in to anal sex, and it's often just as pleasurable for you, or your partner to cum while being rimmed. Even if you think it's not for you, give it a go -- you might be pleasantly surprised.

3 comments:

Simon said...

This post blew me away. I've always thought of rimming as being just another bit of forplay and never paid that much attention to it but now I can't wait to get home and bury my face into my boyfriends ass and get him to do the same. I like the idea of cumming when hes got his tongue in me.

Anonymous said...

well this explains the name of ur new blog lol
wonderful post tho, luv the pix

Mr Jitters said...

Can't wait to try this out ;)